"A good mother is not expected to be perfect and self-sacrificing to the point of martyrdom. She has her own emotional baggage, her own scars, her own needs. She may have work that she doesn’t want to compromise, and there may be times when she’s not available to her daughter. She may lose her temper, and say or do things to her daughter that she regrets. But if her dominant behavior engenders in her daughter a belief her own value and nourishes her self-respect, confidence, and safety, that mother is doing a good job, whether she’s a wonderful mom or just good enough. She’s demonstrating real love, in a tangible, reliable way, to her child."

Mothers Who Can’t Love: A Healing Guide for Daughters by Susan Forward, Donna Frazier Glynn

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befriendment:

boys= nasty and dress bad

me= somehow still likes boys and is disappointed in myself and thinks i should do better

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"Most Americans say, if asked, that inequality is too high and something should be done about it — there is overwhelming support for higher minimum wages, and a majority favors higher taxes at the top. But at least so far confronting extreme inequality hasn’t been an election-winning issue. Maybe that would be true even if Americans knew the facts about our new Gilded Age. But we don’t know that. Today’s political balance rests on a foundation of ignorance, in which the public has no idea what our society is really like."

  • Friend: So how do you think you've changed since high school?
  • Me: Well I became aware of oppressive power structures and how we are complicit in them and now seek to dismantle them.
  • Friend: ...
  • Me: I also think I got hotter.

"Hatred would have been easier. With hatred, I would have known what to do. Hatred is clear, metallic, one-handed, unwavering; unlike love."

Cat’s Eye by Margaret Atwood

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